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Dayenu for Abuse Survivors

Updated: Jul 29, 2023

Alternative Dayenu

In Hopes of Freedom From Abuse For All

Author unknown. References to men’s suffering added by Rabbi Pamela Frydman Click here for an alternative that honors women and children. Sometimes, we cannot say Dayenu. Women have the right to say, “No, this is not enough, I will not settle for this.” Sometimes, we wish we could say Dayenu. What would be enough? Together: When women can make choices about our own bodies and our own lives, Dayenu When courts, law enforcement and mental health professionals stop blaming the victim, Dayenu When children do not have to witness violence, misogyny, or any abuse in the their own familes, Dayenu When the Jewish community protects abuse survivors, Dayenu When our voices are listened to and believed without judgment or question, Dayenu When money and power can no longer protect abusers, Dayenu When the community focuses on stopping the abusers instead of blaming us for staying, Dayenu When Jewish law and secular law can guarantee women and children’s right to safety, Dayenu When every Jewish woman can find true shalom bayit, Dayenu When men who are in danger can also be safety, Dayenu The original of this Alternative Dayenu is available on the website to Shalom Bayit PO Box 10102Oakland, CA 94610 Business: (510) 451-8874Counseling: (866) SHALOM-7


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